So, I recently turned 25 and, whilst having another casual quarter-life crisis, I’ve been reflecting back on decisions I’ve made and experiences I’ve had.
Here are 25 lessons (of varying importance & in no particular order) that I’ve learned in my 25 years:
- Most things don’t go as you originally planned, but Plans B, C, D or even E usually aren’t so bad. They might even be better.
- High school sucks and it feels like it will last forever, but it doesn’t. In fact, you’ll be able to laugh with friends later about how much it sucked.
- Mental health issues are always hard to deal with, but they’re made much easier when you let people help you.
- Punctuality might not be something that everyone can master.
- The job you think is “the actual worst” is most likely not. Things can almost always be more terrible.
- Having awful jobs will help you appreciate the better ones.
- Who you work with is just as important as what you’re doing.
- Finding and keeping at least one hobby that centers you and chills you out is super-duper important.
- You can, at any point, return to a hobby you had given up.
- Old friends are hard to beat, but you’re not required to keep all of them around just because you’ve known them for years. You’ll realize which friends you’ll always have room for.
- Recognizing that someone isn’t good for you, and acting accordingly, doesn’t make you a bad person.
- Not everyone is going to like you. This is sometimes hard to accept, but you’ll become more okay with it the older you get.
- You don’t always have to be agreeable and “nice.” Some things are worth getting angry and passionate and frustrated over.
- Trust your gut, it’s usually right.
- Being organized is important, and it does not come naturally to some of us. But it’s always worth improving on.
- Literally everyone is dealing with difficult stuff. Some people are just better at hiding it.
- College can be great, but thinking they’re the absolute “best years of your life” can make you feel stressed about appreciating it. The years after are different but can be just as great.
- Keeping up with college friends is so important, and sometimes all it takes is the occasional text or call.
- Starting in college, coffee will probably become one of your best friends.
- Even when experiences with dating turn out to be terrible, they’ll help you figure out your deal-breakers.
- Being single is usually really nice, despite what society tells you. You don’t need anyone to validate you.
- Most people don’t know what they’re doing, it’s not just you.
- It’s important to take risks because you will definitely regret things you didn’t do more than things you did.
- Sometimes all you need is a good book.
- Being able to laugh at yourself will make everything easier.
xx bits of prose and whimsy